Adoption: The Compassionate Choice
Adoption: A Loving Option for Unplanned Pregnancy
If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and feel that parenting might not be right for you right now, adoption can be a beautiful and empowering choice. While we don’t directly facilitate adoptions, we are here to support you every step of the way. Reach out anytime at 312‑422‑9300 or info@IllinoisRightToLife.org—you are never alone.
What the Data Tells Us
In 2022, about 80,600 children were adopted in the U.S.—and that number rises to 106,196 when including stepparent adoptions.
Virtual “infant” adoptions have rebounded post-pandemic. In 2022, there were around 25,500 private domestic adoptions, up from about 24,700 in 2019.
Over 50,000 children were adopted from foster care in FY 2023.
At the end of 2023, there were 36,411 children legally free for adoption with permanency plans, waiting to be placed in forever homes.
Why Adoption Matters
Behind every adoption is a birth mother who loved her child and made a selfless decision—because she wanted the best possible life for her baby. Your choice can give your baby a future filled with love, stability, and opportunity.
Costs for Birth Mothers
In most cases, adoption does not cost the birth mother anything. Agencies typically cover necessary medical costs, counseling, and other related expenses.
Adoption Pathways
You may choose from several types of adoption:
Closed Adoption: Identities stay confidential; no contact occurs post-adoption.
Semi-Open Adoption: Communication occurs through the agency—sometimes via letters or visits—but identities remain private.
Open Adoption: You get to meet the adoptive family and set the level of continued contact—through letters, visits, or calls.
Your counselor will help you decide which path feels right based on your comfort, preferences, and emotional needs.
Will Adoption Work for Me?
It’s a deeply loving—and sometimes difficult—decision. Many mothers say it was the best choice they ever made, even though it was emotionally challenging.
You’ll be able to select a loving adoptive family for your child.
With support, you can pursue your personal goals—whether that’s finishing school, starting a career, or building a family later on. Some agencies even offer scholarships to birth mothers.
Additional Support Options
If you need confidential housing during pregnancy, you’re not alone:
Aid for Women — (312) 621‑1100 | help@aidforwomen.org
Well of Mercy — (773) 274‑4227 | info@thewellofmercy.com
Or call us at 312‑422‑9300 to explore more maternity home options.
Next Steps
Take a deep breath—you’re not alone.
You don’t have to decide right now. Adoption can happen anytime during pregnancy—or even after birth.
Contact an adoption counselor to explore your options. Calling doesn’t commit you to anything—it just gives you information. Choose any agency you're comfortable with.
Resources You Can Call:
Bethany Christian Services — 1‑800‑BETHANY (1‑800‑238‑4269)
Catholic Charities — 1‑312‑454‑1717
Adoption Center of Illinois — 1‑800‑676‑2229 (Text available)
St. Mary’s Services — 1‑800‑ST‑MARYS (1‑800‑786‑2797)
After the Baby Is Born
You’re not required to finalize adoption until at least 72 hours after birth. Once you sign your consent, it's final—but it only happens when you are fully ready.
You control the circumstances of birth—where it happens, how much time you spend with your baby, and your involvement with the adoptive family.
Post-Adoption Support
Support doesn’t end once adoption is complete. Counselors remain available to help with emotional healing, connection with support groups, or finding resources like:
Adoption Center of Illinois — (800) 676‑2229
Birth Mother Support Groups (Online & local)
Scholarship Opportunities (check with agency)
Frequently Asked Questions
What if the father is uninvolved or absent? The adoption agency will help navigate required legal paperwork and make sure you're supported.
What if the baby has special needs? There are families specifically waiting to welcome children with medical or emotional needs—your counselor will work to find the right match.
What will my child think of me? You are a hero. Adoption is an act of enduring love. Most babies who are adopted grow up appreciating that their birth mother made a brave, loving choice.
Can I change my mind? Yes, until you sign the legal surrender forms (at least 72 hours after birth), you may change your mind. You make the decision in your own time.
You’re Stronger Than You Know
Choosing adoption doesn’t mean giving up—it means giving your child hope, a family, and love.
If you’re considering adoption or just need someone to talk to, please reach out:
Illinois Right to Life: 312‑422‑9300 | info@illinoisrighttolife.org
You’re not alone. We’re with you—now and always.
